I’m Late!

Hello, Readers. Hope you had a good Monday. This is the first time that I have been late for a blog post! This is due to my weekend. First, there was a scheduled power outage on Saturday on my street that started at 10am and lasted until 2pm. Then, I had my regular chores to do that required electricity. Finally, (and graphically) I threw up 2 hours before I was suppose to have people coming over and was suppose to go out that night. I also stayed up until 3AM being sick and feeling sick. On Sunday, I slept most of the day and just rested and canceled MORE plans that I was suppose to have that weekend. It was dreadful. I’m feeling a lot better today and was able to go to work today with no problem.

To say that things were thrown off this weekend would be an understatement. I would also like to mention that my whole week was thrown off. I have been crushing my goals. Down around10lbs, staying off social media, mindin’ my bizness. However, we went out with friends for sushi and Super Bowl weekend, blah blah blah. These events have gotten me thinking about my goals. My precious goals. I’ve spent so much time and energy on them. Not just making, but all of the wishful thinking that I have done to hope that they happen. I have realized this could have been a mistake. And that I’ve been making this mistake for years.

Making goals is easy. We’ve been making goals and been aware of goals since we were kids. “Score this many points” or “run faster than that kid” and you accomplish the goal of winning. But, what if it’s not making goals that I should be focused on, but come with an idea of what to do when things go wrong. Because things will always go wrong. This isn’t to sound pessimistic but to be realistic. Life is messy. There are hundreds of things out of our control. So, the ideal solution would be to start exploring the idea of “what to do when shit goes wrong” goals?

I don’t have specific ideas…yet. From a scholarly Google search, there are a few points that I think I will piggy back off of in the next blog. The first one remembering that I cannot control what happens. However, I can always control how I respond to it. The second is to give myself a break. The goal is not be perfect. It is to be consistent or “do as much as you possibly can under your current circumstances.” The third would be maybe to schedule some kind of check points to see if my goals are realistic, maybe to edit some of them or the expectations. The fourth is from the lovely Brene Brown. I do not have her exact quote. However, a memorable moment from The Gifts of Imperfection is “no matter what gets done, I am always worthy of love and belonging.” There is always a chance that I will not meet these goals. But, I will still love and accept myself exactly as I am in every moment.

I’m hoping to elaborate more on these ideas in the next post. Also…I have NOT called to schedule a therapy appointment. However, I have been thinking about it everyday for the past few weeks…maybe more on that next time as well.

Kindly, Kat